Couple Counselling

As a Couples Counsellor:

Julie has an understanding and compassion for the underlying dynamics that may be affecting the current relationship.

She offers an initial diagnostic session with the couple, with no obligation to continue. The purpose of this is to transparently look at what might be going on and to assess the probability of outcomes given the motivation of the parties concerned. This is costed at the appropriate rate as it is probably the most important session of all.

The outcome for couples counselling may be quite different for each pair.

For some it is to end the relationship well and remain in good contact to be able to continue being parents to joint offspring or to transform the relationship into a friendship, or simply to say goodbye and thank you.

For others it is to rediscover what it was that originally lead to each falling in love with the other and whether those qualities are still there, despite life's vicissitudes. This could lead to a focus on everyday living and the kind of things that have lead to a sense of not being appreciated, acknowledged or valued. Sounds easy, but it is not, otherwise counselling would not be needed. It is often a process of separating the past from the present.

Couples counselling also involves looking at the relationship as an entity in its own right. It is often helpful for a couple to see the relationship as a coupledom which goes through its own growing phases, with its own needs, just like a person. This helps deflect blame and shame from the individuals involved and enables each party to discover where the coupledom has got stuck and what its needs are.